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Condolences
Frances lived the first generation immigrant experience. She grew up in a tenement building on the Lower East Side in a five story walkup. Her mother was a seamstress and her father was a laborer at the Nabisco factory. This generation knew the value of hard work, living within your means and the absolute bedrock importance of family. Frances carried these values throughout her life.
Friends and family were everything to Frances. And those of you who have been in her house know that every available surface is covered with photos of loved ones. Every time I called the first question she always asked was “How is everyone?” and “Is everyone okay?” More than anything she wanted to make sure that everyone was doing well, busy with work and above all, safe. She could be having the worst day but as long as everyone was doing well, then all was good.
Frances loved to travel. Her kitchen refrigerator is covered with souvenir magnets from many of the places she visited - San Diego, Sedona, St. Louis, Charleston - among the dozens of keepsakes. In her later years, she enjoyed local travel to see summer concerts and plays in the area.
Frances was so generous. Not only did she fund college savings plans for each niece and nephew but she gave donations to virtually anyone who asked especially for first responder groups. She never missed a birthday and always offered us support if we needed any.
Throughout her life’s journey, Frances demonstrated remarkable strength in the face of adversity. She taught us the value of perseverance and retained her sense of humor throughout every challenge. She possessed a quiet courage that inspired us all to confront our own trials with grace and fortitude.
Frances was independent, a proud Italian, stubborn and caring. For me and Alan, she was the last connection between my parents’ and grandparents’ generation. She was a devoted aunt and a cherished friend. In her presence, we found warmth and compassion, and in her absence, we now carry the memories of her in our hearts.
As we say our final goodbye to her in this realm, may we find solace in the knowledge that Frances now joins her parents and sisters and rests in eternal peace.
History tells us that when Frances was born on May 17, 1934, it was a beautiful spring day in New York City, with temperatures in the mid 60's. I know her parents were excited to welcome their third child into the world, particularly after her oldest sister had died a few years earlier.
My auntie was a constant in my life, from some of my earliest memories until last week when I was the last family member to speak to her. She was fiercely independent and liked to be self-sufficient. She missed her home during the last months of her life, while living in the assisted living facility. She was incredibly generous and helped me put my children through college. And she was incredibly loyal to the family. During one of the last true conversations I had with her, she told me of the issues she faced but then quickly asked how my family was doing. Over the past few years she would end our daily calls with 'as long as everyone is doing all right'. It was the family that was more important to her than the issues which were plaguing her.
I will miss my dear auntie. Several times a day I think about calling her, to check in and see how she's doing. And, then I realize that she's no longer with us. A few hours before she passed, the nurse placed the phone near her ear and I thanked her for all that she has done for me. I was excited for her, that she would be once again with her parents, my dear mother, and her oldest sister whom she had never met. And, of course, there is her beloved Pepe. I know that not everyone believes in the after life, but I do. And it gives me great joy to think of this wonderful reunion.
To my auntie, I say thank you. You were able to navigate through life largely on your own. You were able to live independently for nearly your entire adult life. You were incredible generous and always focused on the family. Well done - you will be missed by me and all who truly knew you.
One of the most humorous ladies I know with an incomparable voice & disposition -dear Franzeee you will be missed. Your presence in my life was truly special. Rest in peace with the angels.
Love, Your Cousin Ariana
Our Dearest Frances…John and I love you very much…You are our special blessing…Rest in Sweet Paradise.